how to make a comfort list
In Get Lucky, the main character makes a “comfort list” of things that are soothing. Here it is:
“Things that are comforting:
Warm water on your skin.
Having someone arrange your fruit in a smiley face.
Having someone refuse to examine your imaginary tumors.
Watching old movies with Mackie.”
And while I’ve never actually made a list like this, myself, I’ve been thinking lately that I maybe should.
Because having a book come out is exhilarating and thrilling and amazing. And it has the dream-come-true quality that so many things do for me now that I make my living as a novelist. But the truth is, having your dreams come true — though truly, indescribably awesome — can also, at times, be a little stressful.
So here is my own comfort list for this month. (And for the record, even just making the list is comforting.)
- Reading to my kids. (About to start Harry Potter 7!)
- Watering the garden.
- Watching at the garden–and all its butterflies, bugs, bees, lizards, and caterpillars.
- Cooking dinner.
- Listening to NPR. (Oh, NPR! I love you!)
- Writing the next novel.
- Daydreaming about the next novel.
- Researching the next novel.
- Taking a shower.
- Curling up next to my sweetie at the end of the day.
- Watching my kids do dance contests.
- Watching 30 Rock. (So good!! MMMPH!)
- Reading. (Right now it’s Gretchen Rubin’s The Happiness Project–along with a book about whales.)
- The sound of the dishwasher.
- Gabbing on the phone.
- Cracking jokes in the kitchen with my husband while he makes tea.
- Making coffee. (Even if I never get a chance to drink it.)
- Boogieing to 70s stations on our WiFi radio.
- Imagining how I’d like to redecorate the house.
- Date night. (Eating Ethiopian food until we’re so full we can barely walk and then going to the movies.)
So: There’s a start. Actually, the more comforts I think of, the more I think of. Which is, of course, comforting in itself.