VIDEO: defining a movement (Mom 2.0)

My friend Laura asked me to make a video for the Mom 2.0 Summit art show.

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And here it is!

Many thanks to Shutter Sisters for allowing me to use photos from the site.  And many thanks to the amazing photographers:  Karen Walrond, Jenny Lawson, Tracey Clark, Sarah Ji, Kristin Zecchinelli, Irene Nam, and Meredith Winn.

And here is the essay that I wrote for the video:

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WHAT I WOULD TELL HER:  (If I knew what to say.)

You are a miracle.

And I have to love you this fiercely:  So that you can feel it even after you leave for school, or even while you are asleep, or even after your childhood becomes a memory.

You’ll forget all this when you grow up.  But it’s okay.

Being a mother means having your heart broken.

And it means loving and losing and falling apart and coming back together.

And it’s the best there is.  And also, sometimes, the worst.

Sometimes you won’t have anyone to talk to.

Sometimes you’ll wonder if you’ve forgotten who you are.

But you must remember this:  What you’re doing matters.

And you have to be brave with your life so that others can be brave with theirs.

The truth is, being a woman is a gift.  Tenderness is a gift.  Intimacy is a gift.  And nurturing the good in this world is a nothing short of a privilege.

That’s why I have to love you this way.  So I can give what I have to you.  So that you can carry it in your body and pass it on.

I have watched you sleep.  I’ve kissed you a million times.  And I know something that you don’t, yet:

You are writing the story of your only life every single minute of every day.

And my greatest hope for you, sweet child, is that I can teach you how to write a good one.

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  • feelslikehomeblog February 21, 2010  

    This is stunningly beautiful and painful and striking and moving. And so very true.

    Thank you.

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  • Monica Quintana February 22, 2010  

    Dear Katherine,
    Thank you! I´m a mother of a 9 yr old girl and a 6 yr old boy and Defining a Movement has touched me so deeply.. I want you to have a well done translation in Spanish for you as a gift, so here it is:
    Que le diria: (Si supiera que decir)
    Eres un milagro. Y tengo que amarte de esta manera feroz para que puedas sentirlo aun despues de irte a la escuela o incluso mientras duermes, incluso despues de que tu niñez se vuelva un recuerdo.
    Olvidaras todo esto cuando crezcas, pero no importa. Ser madre significa tener el corazon roto y significa amar y perder y alejarse para luego volver a estar juntos. Y es lo mejor que existe. A veces, tambien es lo peor.
    A veces no tienes a nadie con quien hablar. A veces te preguntas si acaso es que has olvidado quien eres.. Pero siempre debes recordar esto: Lo que haces, importa.
    Y debes ser valiente en tu vida para que otros puedan ser valiente con la suya.
    La verdad es que ser mujer es un regalo. La ternura es un regalo, la intimidad es un regalo y nutrir lo bueno de este mundo no es para nada un privilegio pequeño.
    Por eso tengo que amarte de esta manera, para que pueda darte todo lo que tengo. Para que puedas llevarlo en tu cuerpo y heredarlo a otros.
    Te he observado mientras duermes, te he besado un millon de veces y se algo que tu aun no conoces: Estas escribiendo la historia de tu propia vida, cada minuto de cada dia.. Y mi mayor deseo para ti, dulce niño, es que pueda yo enseñarte a escribir una buena historia.

  • Dee February 24, 2010  

    You made my heart soar…….

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  • Privilege of Parenting March 30, 2010  

    I simply love this. I followed a comment on my own blog to the video on youtube back to your lovely site. Even though I’m a father, in my mind I do a lot of mothering, or maybe it’s just “humaning.” We all struggle to express ourselves and love our kids and you have have reached something sublime here and I just wanted to say thank you for it. Namaste

  • Sharon April 4, 2010  

    May I have permission to put this video on my blog?
    My next question is how can I download/upload it?
    I don’t see where or how I can do it.

    • Katherine Center April 4, 2010  

      Hi Sharon! You are welcome to post the video on your blog! Thanks for asking! You can go to YouTube and take the code to embed it from there, if you like. This link ought to get you there…
      Many thanks!!

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  • Karla June 13, 2010  

    Very nice video and I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE the music……..

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